I learned my lesson many years ago not to take Valentines Day too lightly. When your partner says, “It’s just another day, you don’t have to do anything for me,” that is the code for you to do something. It doesn’t even have to be much, it’s just the thought that you did something out of your ordinary routine of taking her for granted. Even my father with a house full of kids new this code. He would bring home the biggest heart-shaped box of chocolates that no woman would possibly eat but he knew that bigger was better. After the kids plowed through that box of delights and my mother got the last remaining piece, she was happy and he felt relieved.
I looked up what other historical events happened on February 14th and surprisingly all those listed had nothing to do with love. Here’s an example of some of those mentioned;
In the year 1400, The deposed Richard III is murdered in Pontefract Castle in Yorkshire. Quite possibly he got caught shagging the Chancellor of Exchequers spouse.
In 1779, American Loyalist were defeated by Patriots at Kettle Creek, GA. Possibly, the first recorded Super Bowl? Coach Bill Belichicks and Tom Brady’s ancestors must have orchestrated this victory
In 1848, James Polk became the first US president to be photographed in office by Matthew Brady. He shunned his wife and she wasn’t included in the photos. Polk became a one term president
In 1894, comedian Jack Benny was born. Not exactly a model for romance. For instance, one of his famous quotes was, “My wife Mary and I have been married for forty-seven years and not once have we had an argument serious enough to consider divorce; murder, yes, but divorce, never.
In 1904, the Missouri Kid was captured when he was turned in by a young woman because he forgot to bring her freshly picked wildflowers.
In 1929, Chicago gangster, Al Capone had seven of George “Bugs” Moran men gunned down. They were all men that forgot to bring their wives flowers and confections and had to pay a high price for their crimes. Hence, the St. Valentines Massacre.
In 1965, Malcolm X’s house is firebombed. An ex-girlfriend was the assumed assailant but never was caught.
1989, Iranian Leader Ayatollah Rudolla Khomeini charged that Salmon Rushdie’s novel, The Satanic Verses, is blasphemous and issue a ‘fatwa’ calling on all Muslims to kill Rushdie. Apparently, he said that a woman needs a little extra loving on occasion.
As you can clearly see that if we don’t step up there is hell to pay. The punishment might be a cold shoulder, the roll over in bed that suggest for you to go polish the bishop. Or you might get lucky and get a free pass and that free pass usually expires really quick. My suggestion is to mark your calendar for such moments like Valentine’s Day, your anniversary and the place you first kissed your fair maiden and all other days you can accidently forget. As Forrest Gump memorably said, “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re going to get. But if you don’t get any chocolates, you will have no life.”